Mother’s Day

Greetings!

Sunday May 13, is designated Mother’s Day in America. In keeping with that, restaurants will be full, floral delivery trucks will be everywhere, and flowers accompanied by cards will once again have their day in the quest for making mothers feel special.

This will be my seventh Mother’s Day without my precious loving mother and somehow it feels like my first. I realize how lucky I was to be born into her arms and as I wrote “Single And ApParent,”, I always saw her beautiful pecan color face.  She was my first teacher introducing me to what a mother really is, not someone who merely conceives and births a child, but rather someone who loved me and my siblings unconditionally. Loved me through her disappointments of choices I may have made in my life. Loved, protected, and nourished me when I was too little to love, protect, and nourish myself.  Loved me enough to carefully provide advice even though silence might have been her answer. I could go on, and on. There are not enough words to describe how much I love and miss her, it’s a profoundly sad void in my life.

The loss of my mother causes me to think of others who no longer have a mom particularly children. So as they are inundated over the presence of Mother’s Day I want to provide a few suggestions in case you know of a child who will have to somehow get through this very day. Here are some ways you can help them.

1.  Listen to them and in doing so affirm their feelings with the realization deep inside they are probably in some degree of pain.
2. Let them know their mom is still with them just in a different way. If we’re lucky enough to ever have had a mother we are never without them.
3. Does the child have any special “keepsakes” of their mother anywhere?  If so and if it’s convenient, talk about some of them allowing the child to handle them and to share any story they might recall around that keepsake.
4. Lastly, let the child know one thing for sure, their mother wants nothing but their happiness, safety, and peace.

Thankfully, my precious son and I spent countless years with my late mom which brings us some degree of peace. How grateful for that we both are for the gift of showing her love by demonstrating how important time with her was to us. I will look at one of her beautiful pictures tomorrow just like I do every day, cling to one of her beautiful scarves which I hold sacred, and give thanks for every time I kissed her precious face in this life.

Let me know how you will recognize your mother or a child without a mother this Mother’s Day.

Peace~