Father’s Day

Greetings!

Throughout my book one of several important themes you will hear is the important role your child’s other biological parent plays in the overall psychological development and wellness of your child. To deny this  important role is not only self-deceptive, but also emotionally damaging to any child.  This is not to imply a child cannot achieve academically, professionally, and socially without that important relationship because they certainly can.  However, studies indicate even in such cases the child will likely carry emotional baggage due to the absence of that relationship. Case studies indicate the exception might be where the mother marries and her spouse becomes the father figure in that child’s life.

As you know there are variables as to how single parent families are created. Divorce, the death of a spouse, adoption, and out of wedlock births pretty much completes the circle. If I’m missing something by all means let me know!  Regardless of the reasons, it is in the best interest of the child when there is participation and recognition of the child’s other biological parent provided that person is safe.

As a divorced single mother as I have previously shared with you, I realize the effort it has taken to have and maintain a respectful and amicable relationship with my son’s father.  Was it always easy? No. Did/does it require ongoing work, effort, forgiveness, patience, understanding and acceptance?  Yes. Was it worth it?  Absolutely!  Who wins?  Each of us do.

I have never met a father who did not want to be a part of his child’s life, never, in spite of disparaging stigma that suggests otherwise. More than likely if someone “thinks” they know of an exception to this rest assured more so than not there are hidden truths and facts missing from such judgement. In defense of dads NEVER rush to judgement.

My beloved father transitioned from this life over twenty years ago and for me to share with you I think of him every single day of my life is not at all an exaggeration.  Although my parents were married I can’t imagine not knowing him after all, he is my other half. I see a reflection of him every time I look in the mirror.

I applaud all single fathers who are positive examples in their child’s life and if your child’s biological father isn’t quite there I ask you to make certain your are allowing him the opportunity to be. Whatever your differences work it out between the two of you beginning with honest and healthy communication. I am proof it can be done and I am thankful to know other single parents who have done the same.  Children grow up quickly, and in search of their identity they will seek the truth themselves regardless of what they have been told.

Today our son is spending the day with his dad who is there for him twenty-eight hours out of a day.  I am grateful to my former spouse and thankful for the sacrifices made in order for our son to feel and know the love of a father.

If you struggle in your relationship with your child’s biological parent let me know.

Happy Father’s Day!

Peace~